Today is a good day, today, I am in a good mood, I woke up refreshed. So far, so good. I know that something might come up at work (something always does), which might shift my mood around, but for now, I’m ok.
Today I won, but it isn’t the same every day, sometimes, my mood is set at bad for the day and there is nothing I can do about it.
It feels a lot like a gamble every morning not knowing what my mood will be like, but I understand this is the price to pay when one doesn’t control their thoughts, or their mind. Being exposed to the moods of Mood Gambler.
Mood gamblers are often unaware they are even gambling every single day, because when you don’t control your thoughts, your mood, your mind, you expose yourself every day to being surprised by what today will bring you. You are happy to be in a good mood but sometimes, someone or something shifts it and the next day without good reasons, you wake up on the wrong side of the bed and this day feels longer than it actually is.
One day is good, one day is hell and there is nothing we can do about it. Isn’t there, really?
Well let’s break this down a little bit,
A day has 24 hours, in a perfect word; you sleep 8 hours, so 16 hours remain.
16 hours where you are exposed to: working, commuting, eating, interacting and so on. Our thoughts are created by what our senses are exposed to.
Let’s say you are a smoker, and you smoke 20 cigarettes a day. You spend unconscious time every day figuring out if now is a good time to smoke, and actually getting to your smoking spot to smoke your cigarette and come back from your smoking spot and then thinking about the next one and so on multiplied by 20 times a day equally spread into the 16 hours of your daily awareness. It accompanies you all day long, all week long, all month long and etc. It is easy to understand why smokers refer to cigarettes as their best friend, because the cigarette is always there in the good but also and especially the bad moments. As it takes up a lot of time in your mind, it becomes the response to a lot of things. A stressful day? Solution anyone? Cigarette. Happy moment, solution anyone? Cigarette.
It is a strong association creating thoughts as it is constantly in your mind throughout the day.
We looked at the example of cigarette, but this applies to stress, anger, fear, and limitations of any kind. The more time you spend with those things, the more room it takes up in your mind and the more it creates thoughts and so on…
Knowing this, you can create the thoughts you really want, the thoughts that will support your well being. You just need to expose your senses to something you want in life and gradually stop exposing yourself to things you want to forget about.
When you create your own thoughts, you produce the thoughts you want to occupy room in your mind. More room and more space eliminating more of the thoughts you don’t want to point to. After a couple of days / weeks, you will notice they are totally gone, and new associations have been made (more healthy) and keep reinforcing themselves unconsciously.
When you produce your own thoughts, you don’t gamble anymore, you control what is going to happen everyday, and when a stressful event will occur, it might affect you but it won’t destroy you to the point of self-destructive behavior, which is what happens too many times to too many human beings.
Let’s imagine that you want to have more confident thoughts, but you don’t know how to do it. Let’s try to create these thoughts together.
Think about a moment in your life when you demonstrated confidence. Take a moment to review this event (the same time it would take you to watch a YouTube video) but this video is about you using one of your resources. And that’s it, you spent a couple of seconds/ minutes revisiting the moment you felt confident. Do this with 1 or 2 of your resources per day, and you will soon produce unconscious thoughts about other resources of yours.
Keep in mind, give time for this thoughts/feelings to exist in your daily life, let them occupy space and time of your life. Speak about them, laugh about them.
You don’t gamble anymore because you win every time. When you win every time, it isn’t called gambling anymore, it is called mastering.
Good luck Masters.
Because Thanksgiving is around the corner, the same skills you use to prepare Thanksgiving dinner, you can use to create your own mood.
Good Mood Recipe
- Positives affirmations (first thing in the morning)
- Empowering thinking (from previous achievement)
- Organic smiling
- Good mood generator
In the morning, while still in Bed
- Repeat to yourself 5 times: One wanted positive affirmations about what you want your day to feel like. (I’ll have a good day, I am dancing on this day, I want to feel calm toady, etc.)
- 30 seconds of thinking of previous achievements. Things you have done right in the past
While getting ready in the morning
- Smiling while brushing your teeth (until foam naturally comes out)
- The good mood generator is where your throw in your own ideas such as:
-Throwing a few dancing moves here and there while getting ready
-Put on music you like
-Give a twist to your hairstyle